Desires of My Heart: July 2020

Still at It

Five days a week and still going strong💪 So glad I have my daily Crossifit peeps to help me burn off some of my crazy!

She’s finally free from anyone else being in her “space”. F now has her very own room as well. We are ALL so happy everyone has their own room, especially F lol. Mom even put together her new fancy desk today and installed her new LED lights she bought with her birthday money. No more fighting over remotes or beds anymore...YAY!

It’s the Little Things

“They know me because I know them."

It’s my job to show up. To know the details.To know that my eighth grader likes Odwalla Chocolate Protein drinks. Or that my kids have doctor’s appointments next week. Or that my eleventh grader’s brace band colors changed to pink and purple. I know that my Sam doesn’t like scratchy pants or tags and sometimes I cut them out before he even tries them on. Or how my Caleb was a perfect 1950’s Greaser for Halloween. Or about what their backpacks look like.I know. Because I show up.

I’m invested in them – beyond superficial, beyond money – but for their hearts.

Sometimes we get a Taco Bell super pack of tacos. We’ve gone on vacations together to Virginia, Memphis and Gulf Shores. I know where everyone likes to sit in the van too. I know that at exactly 7:33 the bus leaves with my middle school boys. I know which brand of gluten free chicken nuggets to buy. I know that Settlers of Catan is a favorite game and that we are missing one of the blue road pieces. I know that to get to school, to get into that line, that I need to leave the house between 6:44 and 6:47 or else we might be late.

I love being their mom.

I love it so much that I will show up for them day after day after day.

I will never grow tired of showing up, of fighting for them, of giving of myself for them.

That’s what I’ve learned.

And friends, that is what they will remember. Maybe you aren’t divorced like me or maybe you are in a great marriage or maybe in a different spot, but the truth still stands for you. In fact, no matter what your parenting story is the truth is you need to know the details. And you will, when you show up. You need to be invested, to show up, to love them for them. It’s such a magnificent power when we know them because we are there for them. You see, life will throw your curveballs. Several years ago, when I found out I had a broken chip in my ankle and probably needed surgery the most beautiful moment unfolded. You know what happened? My kids showed up for me. They knew that I loved the orange fuzzy blanket and to watch Food Network shows. They made me coffee with creamer and cleaned the kitchen.

They know me.

They know me because I know them.

They show up for me because I show up for them.

You know what matters in the lives of our kids?

Knowing them. Not forgetting them or popping in on occasion or mumbling “uh-huh”, but really giving of yourself for them. Work hard for them, invest in them, know them. Know those details that you can’t buy, can’t pop in and know, but the details that you learn because under no circumstance will you not not show up for them.

So keep being there.

Trust me when I tell you that you will be just fine. You will make it through. You will find joy and happiness. Your kids will remember the showing up, the being there.

Trust me.

I know.

Love, mothering, parenting, it is in the details.

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**These may not be my words... but it is certainly my heart:)

Her Very Own

For the first time in her life... she has her very own room! For this alone time quiet loving introvert=heaven:) E is so happy in her simple little space. G and Papa finished up some final room projects for her this weekend and now she is all set and loving it!!

Teenager Heaven

She scored a new fancy room downstairs FAR away from Mom lol. I think she loves it!

All Good

She did as well as expected. Heading home!

Surgery Day

S is having oral surgery today to remove 7 teeth that includes her wisdom teeth and a few more. ACK... doesn’t sound like fun does it?!? Please pray for my gal as she goes under at 11:30am. She’s had issues with anesthesia in the past, so mom is a bit nervous for her. I’ll post after surgery to let everyone know how it went. Please pray for minimum pain and no complications!

Man Cave Complete

T scored a fancy new man cave during my crazy renovation projects. Must say it looks great! Perfect for T to chill out and enjoy. Oh and to hopefully appreciate his mother more lol.

Three Years

Celebrating three years of togetherness with this amazing man today❤️ #desiresofmyheart #blessedandhighlyfavored

Home Sweet Home

We made it! Arrived home safe and sound and better yet... to a few surprises:) G certainly knows how to make me one happy birthday girl. Scored some candy, some flowers, and even some hand trucks!! PERFECT😍 Yes, I know I’m a little different lol. He even hooked up the girls with some sweet surprises as well. #spoiled:)

Last Night

Went out with a bang on the last night of vacay. T bought some fireworks! The beach was SO nice at night, wish we could have slept out there. Woke up to my last gorgeous sunrise. Time to get packing...